[NOTE: I haven’t posted a blog post in over a year. I’m also not very active on social media anymore, except for leading the nightly rosary on the Blessed Mother Mary Facebook page. There is a reason for this. Through prayerful discernment, I am quite certain that God has asked me to be quieter. Speak less. Write less. Pray more. Read more. Focus on my family and my job. I’ve always presumed that this Divine “injunction” would be temporary, but in all honesty I have no idea if and when it will ever end. The days of sipping scotch and waxing philosophical from the Side of the House now seem distant indeed.]

May 2021 Update
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As many of you know, my health is not good, but through the grace of God I am still pretty active. Lately I’ve received lots of questions from nice people about my health. Here is my dilemma:
The people who ask me about my health care about me and my family. It is very kind of them to inquire. If I tell them everything is fine, then I feel dishonest, like I am somehow disrespecting them by not being forthright. I value these kind souls and hate the thought of pushing them to arms length.
On the other hand, I am fighting so many battles that it is difficult to succinctly summarize my situation in a way that doesn’t immediately demoralize both of us. The more in depth I talk about my health battles, the more I leave people walking away feeling sad or discouraged. I want to avoid that.
So I think the best thing is to write it all down and allow people to choose how much or how little they want to know.
The short answer is that I’m battling multiple things, most of which are interrelated. For most of you, that’s probably all the info you really need. So if you want the short answer, you can stop reading now. I appreciate your prayers and support.
For others, here’s the long explanation: As background, it all started with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma in 2003. Then relapses in 2005 & 2007 which resulted in two stem cell transplants. I’ve been chronically ill since. In the past 18 years, I’ve only had one year where I haven’t been hospitalized for something. My lung capacity was significantly reduced by radiation to stop a tumor growing next to my heart in 2003. Later on, blood problems led to the removal of my spleen.
Vocal Cords. My vocal cords have been attacked by the HPV virus for the past six or seven years. This results in papilloma (sort of like warts) on them. Shortness of breath, difficulty speaking, and loss of voice. Without surgery, I would eventually suffocate. So every few months, I undergo this surgery. I’ve had 8-9 of them at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center and another 7-8 at the University of Michigan. 20 surgeries in total. These take about 7-8 hours from check-in to release so we have to drive there and spend the night. I expect my next one to be in June or July.
Parvovirus B19. This is another virus that wreaks havoc with me. Usually my symptoms are achy joints, exterior tenderness, and fatigue. In March I had those symptoms but I also got some nasty blisters that covered both of my hands. The pain was intense. The only way to escape it was to sleep or go on long walks to distract myself. I couldn’t work or do much of anything productive. To resolve this, I have to take IV infusions for three non-consecutive days. They take about 5 hours. Last year I did a M-W-F sequence of these infusions every month for 8 months. I expect to do the same thing for next several months.
Heart. On the evening of March 24th, 2021, I had a heart attack. A stent (a sort of micro-pipe) was put into one section of my heart. I have 3 other blockages that need to be addressed. One is a 70-80% blockage. One is 60-70%. And one is 40-50%. Like many issues in medicine, the best solution is not immediately clear. Options are: 1) By-pass surgery. 2) Put in more stents. 3) Treat it with medicine and watch it.
My awesome new cardiologist at the University of Chicago specializes in post-stem cell transplant cardiology. I just underwent a battery of tests at UChicago last week. Unfortunately, preliminary indications make it look like my heart condition cannot be corrected by diet or exercise. My problems likely have been caused by the 5 or 6 chemotherapy protocols over the years coupled with radiation damage to my heart in 2003. Back then I had a fist sized tumor in my chest. My radiation oncologist said to think of the collateral damage from my radiation as taking 15 years off the life of my heart.
Head and Brain. I’ve been plagued with “chemo brain” for about 15 years now. This is cognitive impairment due to chemotherapy. My cognitive function in one area dropped from the 80-90th percentile to the 8th percentile. This week, however, I’ll have a CT scan of my cranium. They are looking for a reason why I keep having sharp, debilitating pain inside my ears and shooting through the nerves in my head. It feels like a knife shoved into my ear every 30 seconds or so when it is active. My doctor looked into my ears and couldn’t find anything so they’ll be looking for a brain tumor.
Other Ongoing Battles.
- Chronic tinnitus that comes and goes.
- Broken kneecap still not healed from two years ago. I am wobbly. For some strange reason, my recent heart attack triggered significant stiffness and pain in my knee.
- Recurring blocked salivary duct. Very painful.
- Chronic congestion and productive cough.
- Severe Sleep apnea that stresses my heart without my CPAP machine.
- Periodic mouth sores / sore throat that seem to be tied to one of my chronic viruses.
So there’s the update. I hope to write a reflection on all this sometime soon, but that may or may not happen. Until then, thanks for your thoughts and prayers. Onward!
God Bless! – BK
May 15, 2021 at 3:15 pm
Bobby, Matt and I are praying for you. Thank you for sharing this — it’s a lot ! Your strength is inspiring but I so want you to not have all these challenges!
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May 14, 2021 at 8:47 am
Dear BK, you continue to confront so many storms. I promise to be more vigilant in my prayers for you, your Health and your family. Asking our dear Lord Jesus Christ to wrap his healing arms around you each and every day. Your devotion to Mary and your faith in Jesus Christ help so many of us to spend time in daily prayer. Grateful for your spiritual mentor ship. Please know that your friendship is an incredible gift to me and to so many who are blessed To call you friend.
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May 12, 2021 at 9:37 pm
Wow … you are a true survivor and a testimony of Gods power and grace that you continue to lead this rosary night after night. I only know a handful of people here and have been so very blessed to connect with this rosary group you lead and all the little stories you tell about you life here and the amazing blog. It’s like a root of connection which is so profound.
Moving from 40 years in the south, leaving career and life there during this time in history was never my plan but Gods. I am praying for you on another level and have seen God miraculously heal so many in my life.
I should not be alive yet am as a testimony to Gods mercy and amazing grace. May Gods merciful strength uphold and heal you and thank you for sharing your journey and this update. ❤️🙏✝️♥️✝️🙏
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May 12, 2021 at 9:37 pm
Thank you for sharing. I will be praying for you and your family every day. You inspire me and make me want to be more humble and holy.🙏🙏🙏
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May 12, 2021 at 6:33 pm
Oh! Bless your heart.
I am so sorry you are enduring so much. I will pray for you here in Arkansas.
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May 11, 2021 at 8:26 pm
Damn, kid. On the upside, can’t wait to see the reason God treated you so poorly.
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May 11, 2021 at 2:52 pm
Bobby sending healing prayers your way! I know it’s said God doesn’t give us more than we can handle, but I think you got way more than one person’s share of health challenges!! And yet, you continue to be a beacon of hope, inspiration and humor! Keep up the good fight! God Bless, Maureen
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May 11, 2021 at 2:35 pm
The Sisters of St. Francis, on Mount Alverno, Mishawaka, will be praying for you in our Adoration Chapel. The Lord is with you. Sr. Jeanne E. Niswonger
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May 11, 2021 at 11:44 am
Oh Bobby, we had no idea of the battles you are facing! You never show pain or complain when we pray the nightly rosary! You are a true apostle of Christ! May the Lord continue to be at your side and Margy’s compassion during this difficult time! Prayer is powerful and we will be there for you and your family! 🙏💕😘
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May 11, 2021 at 10:59 am
Appreciate the update BK. Keep fighting the good fight. Some in my family may simply shorten that to Fight On, but that phrase has been known to cause heart burn with south bend residents!
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May 11, 2021 at 9:30 am
Bobby, my heart aches for you! Though I have known much of this, seeing it in writing makes the reality even more shocking. Hearing your struggles reminds me of my own father who had his life slowly taken from him with 47 surgery and multiple ongoing health issues himself. The Lord is TRULY walking with you through this all, otherwise , no person would be able to bare this all on their own. It may seem like an odd way to see this all, but, take advantage of the opportunity to offer the suffering up for yourself and others problems and sins. We are all walking the road….. Some are more difficult than others. The Lord knows which road to direct us to. Know that you and your family are heavy on my heart and in my daily prayers. Please pray for my intentions too, Bobby, if you might need a distraction. Love you GOBS!
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May 11, 2021 at 8:39 am
My thoughts and prayers with you and your family. I’m sure many of your followers never knew how much you have been through. I think your sharing was wonderful since so many of us think we have a lot on our plate. After reading what you have been through makes many of us realize that ours is not as difficult as to what you have been through. May God wrap his loving arms around you and your family and heal all physical, emotional and spiritual issues. In Jesus’s name we pray.
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May 11, 2021 at 8:07 am
Thank you for the update— I have been thinking about you and wondering how you were doing—
My prayers will indeed continue for you and your family!!!
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May 11, 2021 at 8:00 am
Thank you for sharing your story. You truly inspire me. Your writing style is wonderful and entertaining even as you share such difficult struggles. You and your family are in my prayers.
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May 11, 2021 at 7:36 am
Your devotion to our Lord and Mother Mary is so inspiring. It was divine how I came upon the Blessed Mother FB page. You keep fighting the good fight despite health issues that could challenge your faith. I believe that in itself is a valuable lesson for us to keep on keeping on. God Bless you and your beautiful family. You are in my prayers!
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May 11, 2021 at 7:20 am
You are in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
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May 11, 2021 at 6:44 am
Thank you for sharing your health situation. We only see you during the rosary but now I know the rest of your health struggles. You’re such an inspiration. The amount of suffering you are going through yet we only hear your praises. Thank you for “Praising in the storm”. I will continue to pray for you. Your raw honesty is appreciated. You are loved. 💕
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May 11, 2021 at 1:06 am
Sending prayers and much love and caring for you and your family.
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